The holidays are such a beautiful time of year. There are beautiful decorations, delicious meals, and precious time spent with friends and family. But when you get married, figuring out how to handle the holidays can be hard. Suddenly, your traditions and priorities aren’t the only ones in the equation!
You may be dead set on how your family always did things and find that your husband is just as adamant that things be celebrated how he remembers it. One of the beautiful difficulties of starting your own family is learning how to create a new mesh of traditions together.
The most difficult part might not even be between you and your new husband, but learning how to handle the holidays with your family or your new in-laws can be tense and really add stress into a time of year that is supposed to be full of love and fun.
A good rule of thumb is to sit down with your spouse and decide what your priorities are, and then let both families know what to expect. Don’t leave them thinking things will stay the same till the last minute when you switch it up. Don’t ask them for their opinion, and don’t let their response sway your decisions. You are a new family now, and you need to create that family life together.
You might decide to rotate holidays with each of your families, or to celebrate on different days. If they live fairly close together you might have time to spend with each side on the actual holiday, or you might decide to stay home. You can choose to travel a lot as a couple and then change your mind when you start having kids.
But however you decide to handle the holidays, it needs to be a sacred and special time for your family. You may have to deal with some problems when you talk to your parents or in-laws, but stay strong and explain why you chose to handle the holidays in this way. Make sure that the time you do spend with them is quality and really treasure this wonderful season.