Who doesn’t love kids at weddings? Tiny little girls in tutus and handsome little guys in bow ties and suspenders? Uuhhh-Dorable! They practically steal the show. Or… you’ll find tiny little girls slamming their flower ball on the ground in the middle of the aisle screaming bloody murder and handsome little guys stomping their feet on the echoing sanctuary tile refusing to walk down the aisle. Sue & Lou refer to kids in weddings as a “wild card.” You never know how their mood or behavior will be on wedding day. This blog consists of our best advice when it comes to children in weddings.
First, it’s totally a personal choice. There’s no right or wrong number of how many flower girls or ring bearers you should have. From a wedding planner’s perspective, less is more! Keep the focus on 1 to 3 tiny tots. The more you have the more “wild cards.” Sometimes there’s no way around including all six of your nieces and nephews in your wedding, which leads us to our next point. When lots of children are involved don’t hesitate to bribe them! Figure out each child’s favorite candy and let them know it will be at the front of the aisle waiting for them. Also, stickers have a magical power over children! This is usually best done by a wedding party member, not the bride or groom. Bribery tends to work…sometimes.
Next, talk with the children. We’re talking to you mothers and/or fathers of the selected flower girl or ring bearer. The more the children know about the wedding and procedures the more they will understand and feel comfortable on wedding day.
Finally, everyone must relax. The rehearsal might be horrendous for the children and wedding day might go smoothly, or vice versa. We witness so many parents try to force their kids to do exactly what they practiced in rehearsal. Things go much better when everyone relaxes and allows the kids to do what they will. If they won’t walk down the aisle it. will. be. okay!
Again, children can be a terrific compliment to your wedding party, but don’t expect too much from them. Some of them just learned to walk. Allow them to dress up and walk down the aisle if they want to, but if in the moment they refuse, it will not ruin your wedding. They’re kids (wild cards), remember that.